If you are facing a possible divorce while the pandemic is raging, you should plan ahead and take time to investigate, if you can. Here are some suggestions for getting started.
1.Check on your options. The best starting point is consulting with an experienced Collaborative attorney who has handled a number of cases. Not every case is a good candidate for Collaborative, but many more could be since going to court is not such a quick possibility in divorces. You should decide what's important to you and then discuss that with your prospective attorney.
As the Rolling Stones said, "You can't always get what you want". Some things are legally impossible or not realistic, but many other things can be accomplished if you work on it. You need an attorney who is willing and able to think and practice outside the box.
2. Review your finances. Your asset values may have changed with the fluctuations in the economy. You may have more debt, particularly if your income has stopped or changed. Are there problems making payments?
You should gather all the financial records you can. Let your attorney decide what's needed. You and your attorney, and maybe a financial advisor, should start working on a financial plan for you. It may all have to be revised several times, but it will help you focus if you have actual facts to consider.
3. Regardless of your feelings, you should start cooperating with your spouse on issues dealing with the kids. Either the two of you or your attorneys or a child specialist can start working on a plan for sharing time and responsibilities. One new responsibility may be home schooling or supervision of the children during the days as schools slowly open up.
If you decide to try Collaborative Divorce, you will probably have a team to help you with your financial issues and children's issues. Plus, you will have two attorneys committed to helping you instead of just fighting. Good luck!